Saturday, 21 September 2019

Moral leadership: A tool for society transformation!



Introduction
I am a former student leader. A large chunk of my experience in leadership has been for service and volunteering. In my years as a bachelors’ student, I volunteered to serve students at Strathmore University. This is a University founded on strong principles of Ethics, Morality and Faith. I will, therefore, write this article based on my experiences in service as a voluntary leader within and outside Strathmore University for the period that I was in leadership within the past 4 years. I will also relate my experiences to my knowledge and divide the article into 4 subsections characterizing moral leadership which include:
1.      Culture
2.      Character and service
3.      Relationship between Power, Courage and Humility
4.      Altruism
Culture
This is far the most important section of the article. Culture is the core of a society. It is the basis of influence and persuasion. Culture is used to convince decisions in most circumstances; at home, work or in politics. Culture has always been and still is the reference foundation for persuasion. It, therefore, follows that it is the core of leadership in society too.
My past experiences have taught me that good things do not happen because of ‘good’ people; nor do bad things happen because of ‘bad’ people. Everything happens because of systems: The social systems we have grown from our culture. These systems are built by people. We build these systems ourselves or we adopt to them over time. As a fact, we show it in our decisions, choices, beliefs, history and relationships. More than often, the culture is subscribed to by a large number if not all members of the community, as a result, forming a system that shapes members of the community. Through the system the society is controlled. In other words, culture gives birth to the system that runs you in your society. Therefore, it follows that a faulty system will often produce bad results even with the involvement of ‘good’ people: Similarly, an excellent system will produce good results even with the involvement of ‘bad’ people. A system, more than often, become too powerful than individual influence, except in exceptional cases.
A characteristic of human beings is the ability to adapt (Ashcroft, 2013). You adapt easily. You can create and adapt to systems that you create or have found created. In other words; the culture of your environment shapes the system in which you operate under; which little by little moulds your character. This is explained by the fact that human beings become what they consistently practice and believe in. What you believe in is often what you learn or what you have been taught. Your individual effort to integrate certain principles and habits deep into your nature is limited to your knowledge and experiences. This knowledge and experience are derived from your environment which informs your desires. This desire is highly influenced by your environment and what you acquire from it.
Inasmuch as who we are is shaped by what we do, what we do makes us who we are (Durant, 1991). Hitherto, what we do is informed by what we have learnt. This means that to make a new culture, you have to unlearn the old, learn the new and desire to adopt a new culture. Integrating new principles and habits will only be made easier by a new desire informed from new learnings and practising the very habits you desire. Unlearning and learning, desiring and being, doing and becoming are pairs in a perfect system of exchange that involves a process of shaping your character and your culture. You learn by unlearning and you become after desiring. What you do shapes who you are and who you are determines what you do; the starting point being who you are. I like to refer to this as practical philosophy; you only get it right the moment you begin to practice it; until then, it’s always complex. The above introduction will be a pointer guide to help us understand the soul of this unique kind of leadership- Moral Leadership.
In the current prevailing world-conception where individualism is glorified, selfishness is ‘rewarded’ and competition for profits is admirable, I may not be celebrated as an advocate for ethics, moral leadership, common good, self-sacrifice and justice. The pattern of behaviors that were once considered a big success; including in leadership, are the cause of unending predicaments the world is facing today (A.C.Kapur, 1997). For example, exploitation through colonialism nowadays referred to as neocolonialism, divide and rule, ethnic politics and manipulation of the masses for selfish gain. These are just but some few examples. However difficult it is for me to write about moral leadership and get an applause, I will take the risk to tread on that narrow path; for it is the little things done cumulatively that ultimately result to the big change we all look for.

Character and service
Majority of the problems that cripple societies in the world today are consequence of a fundamental failure in leadership. Corruption, war, poverty, hunger, climate change and environmental degradation are all manifestations of the failure. These problems arise when a leader lose the Agenda of service to others and instead shift their focus to the pursuit of selfish interest. On the contrary, you will discover that leadership by definition is centred on others; not oneself. A leader is one who influence, guides and shows the way by example to a clear intellectual vision greater than himself/herself. This means that when you enter leadership, the focus shifts from you to the people you lead; this is where Moral leadership begins.
Leadership without morality is superficial (Covey, 2008). It is merely a short lived influence that cannot outlive an individual. Morality is central to leadership because of the long lasting influence it has compared to personality which is normally short lived. This means that moral leadership goes beyond an individual’s mere charisma and rhetoric expressions. It sinks deep into the heart of a leaders’ authentic character, which is manifested by his/her behavior. On the face of it, charisma and rhetoric can only be used as a quick fix to cover for your social image and to protect your temporary social brand (Covey, 2008). Your personality appeal cannot withstand the test of character; only your character will do it for you. As a replacement for seeking the gratification of oneself, Moral leadership seeks to serve others and to develop their capacity to achieve greater results. It therefore approaches others with a sense of unconditional worth and value. A moral leader takes up the duty to help others pursue their own legitimate interest and goals, treating them as an end in themselves; not as a means to an end. In that sense, leadership compels the leader to bring out the best from his followers using his good example.

Power, Courage and humility
Character is the source of power in moral leadership (Covey, 2008). It is the moral authority that earns your influence. Moral leadership has to do with the conduct of leaders. It is concerned with the nature of a leaders’ behavior and their virtuousness. It is about the amount of courage they have shown in doing what is right over that which is easy. Far beyond seeking to be followed, Moral Leadership aims to achieve a high moral goal, anchored on principal values, hence characterized by a deep sense of ethics. In a decision making scenario for example, the choices a leader makes and how they respond in a particular circumstance is informed and directed by their ethics. It therefore begins from an individual’s moral transformation to the overall societal transformation, hence humility is such a key virtue. Rather than seeking self-interest, Moral leadership guides you to think beyond yourself by prompting moral fiber continuous improvement process. You will need to understand that you are a person in progress in order to accept the concept of continuous improvement. Moral leadership not only places you against a virtuous mirror where you learn and practice virtue until you begin to become a virtuous person but also builds in the courage and capacity to transmit those virtues to others using your influence as a leader. This whole process is gradual and not merely for self-benefit but for the purpose of achieving a greater goal than yourself. It is solely in preparation of service to others. You must be a humble person enough to accept it.

Altruism
Moral leadership gets you exposed to the universal moral culture which harmonize the fragmentation of values across different cultures in the world. Unlike Ethical egoism and Utilitarianism, moral leadership is founded on the virtue based, authentic, transformational leadership principles of altruism which show concern and interest for others. For example, a leader who struggles to be honest and transparent is not doing so for himself but for the sake of the common good of the people who follow after him. The same applies to a leader who practices humility, justice, truth, love, respect, self-sacrifice, compassion and philanthropy. The works of Mother Teresa who gave her life to help the poor is a perfect example of authentic transformational moral leadership. Rather than seeking to find what is right outside yourself for your benefit, Moral leadership is about an inner moral conviction of choosing to do what is right for the benefit of others, amidst all odds in the prevailing environment. It is the system that will call on you to take up hard moral decisions to disrupt an immoral system.

Conclusion
Therefore, Moral leadership doesn’t require a position. It rather requires self-awareness, a moral conviction, the courage to step up for what is right and committed humility to serve others. This rare combination can sometimes require you to do things that are unpopular yet moral. It might sometimes cost you more than you would have predicted. Moral leadership will test the extent to which you can sacrifice self-interest for the sake of common good (Community interest). However, it always proves to be worth the sacrifice. A good example of Moral leadership without position is civil activism for good governance or justice such as the works of Martin Luther King Jr, the practice of citizens sharing love and compassion to the less fortunate through charity activities in the society, volunteering in community projects and giving back to communities. Some of these moral leadership practices may be accompanied by risks while others may not, but they all have a cost that the leader must be willing to pay. A leader who does not consistently seek to do what is right cannot achieve good in the society which he leads. If there are no values inside a leader, then there will be deficiency of the values in the community that follows the leader. So I say, little by little, a bird builds its nest; chose what is right, do what is moral and advocate for the truth!

References

A.C.Kapur. (1997). Principles of Political Science. S Chand Publishing.
Ashcroft, R. (Director). (2013). The four horsemen [Motion Picture].
Covey, S. (2008). 7 Habits of highly effective people. Success Magazine.
Durant, W. (1991). The Story of Philosohy. New York: Pocket Books.



Monday, 9 September 2019

Planning Flexibly



I believe life should be lived with a strict Flexible plan.
It's good to plan every minute of your life. Know what next and why, and follow through with it. It's is said that failing to plan is planning to fail. In a happy world, this is 100% correct. Unfortunately, in real life, where we have to deal with people, and we have family and children involved, you need an attitude of flexibility. Your family will always need you sometime when you are right in the middle of your plan. If you value family as I do, when family comes calling, you can't delegate this. You can delegate other areas of your life but not when it comes to your most important part of your life; family.
Planning Flexibly or rather planning with an attitude of flexibility implies that everyone, including yourself, is fully aware of what you are trying to achieve, but also that the path is not curved on stone. Especially if it comes to dealing with third parties. You need to know your non-negotiables and know your negotiables. The non-negotiables should be what is inside of you, that which you have influence over. It could be your faith, your belief, your absolute truth about life, your absolute “WHY” in life. It should be about your core value systems. As much as your value system could be influenced over time by what you experience, but the core value system should be your guardrail. That which you hold on to dearly and is your filter to every negotiable you come across.

Your negotiables are more about the “HOW.” The structures, the resources, the what, the people you meet in this life, money, things that are more out of your control. More of your circle of concern. You need to know that which concerns you and that which you can influence. Our frustration comes when we can’t separate the two. The negotiables and the non-negotiables.  So many times, we make negotiables, non-negotiables, and vice versa. 
Don't spend time chasing a right answer or a right path, but instead spend time defining how you are going to approach whatever path you choose. What values most define you. What questions do you want to pursue? What is seems right now, might change tomorrow. If you have been engaged in anything in life, I believe you appreciate this fact. I call this relative truth. It makes sense to you now, but when things change, it will not hold as true. It could be the right path now, but with exposure and more information coming your way, you may look at it differently and be quick to embrace another path that will hold for as long as you operate in the same paradigm/situation. Remember, this is your negotiable. You approach is what will be your non-negotiable. This has to be very clear to you because it's about your core value system; it's about what your life is all about.

I love this quote by Tim McGraw; We should all reassess what we think and believe constantly - in politics, in life, and in our thinking. Otherwise, we get too rigid.
The more you get exposed, the more you are able to realize that somethings will not last and as such, they form part of your life experience. You develop a flexible attitude to life. The danger sometimes might be if you lose out on yourself. Continuously reassessing your absolutes and relative truths, negotiables, and non-negotiables, your level of flexibility is very key. Becoming too rigid in this life is very expensive and frustrating.
So as you plan your life goals, desires, and objectives, take into account that things will always not work the way you want them to, but don't lose your focus. Adopt a flexible attitude and enjoy the experience as you learn from it.
If this resonates with you, go ahead to evaluate your non-negotiables and negotiables, your absolute and relative truth. Look for a small community of friends who you can do this together with. Being accountable to a few and practising with a few. It’s about building a community of friends to share each other’s journey of life with, as you plan flexibly.  You have to be deeply committed to each other and desire to see each other grow in this journey. You have to create a support, encouragement, and accountability platform for each other. The community has to be as small as possible so that there is active engagement by all involved.
Find a community around you and see if these conversations make sense to you.


Tuesday, 3 September 2019

Money and Relationship





I believe money should not break relationships.
Relationship and money in most cases are like oil and water. Some people have declared that they will never lend or borrow money to or from friends. I find this to be disturbing. I believe that it's actually from friends that when you need a quick bail, you can run to them. This, of course, has to be based on trust.
I have lost many friends because of money related issues. Either the feeling that they lack it or they have borrowed and failed to return or any other issues that make the interaction very tricky. This is unfortunate. I'm a firm believer that a problem that money can solve is not a problem. Now, depending on how you view this statement, you can argue it the whole day. There are real problems that money can’t solve. No matter how much you have.
The unfortunate scenario also is where our attitude, behaviour, and desire towards money has made us hurt the ones we care about. Your pursuit and search for more money leave a trail of destruction. This is very troubling. You end up losing all the money you worked so hard to acquire, trying to solve problems that money can't solve. This leaves you wasted. 

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I remember in September 2016; I had an encounter that came to mind today. I had a supplier who we had dealt with for over 5 years. This very day, I asked the supplier to extend me a line of credit so I can go ahead and do what I need to get done then we would settle it. The supplier refused completely and wasn’t even willing to listen to me. It made me feel like our 5-year interaction had meant nothing. I had to get another supplier who was willing and ready to help out. You can choose to argue this differently, but I believe that money should not mess up a productive relationship. I believe even if you are to refuse to extend credit for any reason, the way you communicate it should not lead to you losing a client you have had for 5 years.
Another scenario played itself in a different case. I recently had to stop going to a particular barber because I realized he was more interested in my money than me. He would look for an opportunity to make sure I leave as much money as possible with him. Again, this is not wrong, but if it's clearly evident that you are seeing me as your ATM and the more you can squeeze out of me the better for you, then I will be gone. He lost me as a client because I found somewhere that I could feel valued and appreciated for going there rather than for the money I’m bringing. Let money be treated for what it is, a means to an end. Many experiences have left me wondering whether I'm naïve or not. 

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I try to give a tip when I receive a good service. For me, service comes first. My relationship with you comes first. But if I realize that you are just out for my money, I will not be interested in your service. You offer excellent service; you open an opportunity for a more meaningful relationship that could lead to more money. You focus more on money; you may lose the relationship even before it starts.
Money is just a means to an end, acquire it but let it not acquire you. Don’t lose a relationship because of your appetite for money. You will not find meaning in this life if everything around you is about how much money you can get in every interaction you have.
This article is tricky because I know there is a school of thought which implies that without money you are done. Trust me; I have experienced a lot of things in my life that I couldn’t afford. They have come to me not because I had the money to buy them, but because of the depth of the relational trust that exists. Some of these relationships and trust have taken me years and sacrifice to build. Some of them are out of extended trust; a referral by a trusted party. Some of them turn out good others don’t. Whichever the case, I don’t know how to do it another way.
If this resonates with you, go ahead to evaluate your money and relationship paradigm. Look for a small community of friends who you can do this together with. Being accountable to a few and practising with a few. It’s about building a community of friends to share each other’s challenges in handling money and relationship issues.  You have to be deeply committed to each other and desire to see each other grow in this journey. You have to create a support, encouragement, and accountability platform for each other. The community has to be as small as possible so that there is active engagement by all involved.
Find a community around you and see if these conversations make sense to you.

By Gabriel Odhiambo Achayo


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